It’s no secret that divorce creates havoc on anybody it touches. Sadly, those who often suffer are the ones who least deserve it: the children. While some divorces involve a peaceful relationship, others don’t. More often, the divorces end up badly and the children are the ones who get affected.
But one Boston dad is reminding parents otherwise: that just because you are divorced, doesn’t mean that you can stop being kind with your ex — and it’s been making rounds online.
True, a peaceful and harmonious relationship and co-parenting with an ex can be quite difficult after a messy divorce but Billy believes that it’s worth the effort, not only for him or the other party, but most importantly, it’s the children that would greatly benefit from it.
According to him, “Divorce can really bring out the worst in people, and it takes work to get the relationship to a point where you can co-parent like this.”
Billy Flynn Gadbois, a father of two from Boston was under a bit of scrutiny from his friends on as to why he was still doing nice things for his ex-wife and so instead of constantly explaining it to them, he wrote a Facebook post that is now being shared all over the Internet because everyone loved his explanation!
He wrote a post explaining how, on his ex-wife’s birthday, he woke up early to buy flowers, cards and breakfast ingredients so his kids could surprise their mom. Isn’t he amazing?
Wanna know why he still does these things, why he chooses to do these things? Read the post below to find out!
Here’s his Facebook post:
“It’s my ex-wife’s birthday today so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast. Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all.
I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren’t modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your shit together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.
Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.”
“I’m not saying everyone needs to help the kids make breakfast,” he said. “But the message people are getting is that you can show each other respect and care in front of the kids, and help the kids care for that parent, regardless of how you feel about each other.”
We hope that there are a lot of others out there like you. Kudos to you, sir!