“So… I am the meanest mom ever… Like… Ever.” was Jaime Primak Sullivan’s declaration on Facebook after dumping her kids’ ice cream to teach them a lesson about manners. But her actions sparked a massive parenting debate because while many commended her actions, there were also those slammed her for the ‘harsh punishment’ over a supposedly trivial matter.
So… I am the meanest mom ever… Like… Ever.
Took the kids to Dairy Queen after dinner. They ordered their dessert choices and we waited about 5 minutes for them to call out our number. The young lady (maybe 17) handed each child their ice cream. Not one looked her in the eye. Not one said thank you. Not to her, not to me… So I waited. I counted to 10
In my head as they dug into their ice cream and the young lady just looked at me (probably because she thought I was hearing voices) and I watched as my children strolled out the door. I followed them outside where I calmly collected their ice creams and my kids watched in horror as I deposited them into the nearby garbage can. All 3 launched into mass hysteria. I waited. Quiet. Calm. When they realized I had something to say, they quieted down.
I explained that one day, if they were lucky, they would work a job like that young lady. And I would hope that people would see them. Really see them. Look them in the eye and say thank you. We are too old at 8/7/5 to move through our days without exercising manners and honestly basic human decency.
So today, I am the meanest mom in the world.
Within a day, thousands of people had already commented on the Facebook post, reaching over 25k in just 2 days! It seems that Sullivan’s actions had hit a button among parents, with one group siding with her and saying that she had done a good job in ensuring that her kids are properly disciplined yet the other group slammed her for her actions, with many saying that she wouldn’t even had to ‘throw a tantrum’ if she had raised her kids right in the first place.
The most popular comment came from Jennifer Snow who wrote:
As someone who works in a restaurant and deals with people who ignore me when I ask “how are you?”, or sit their money on the counter when I’m holding my hand out for it, or won’t even acknowledge me after I say thank you, have a nice day! Thank you. Thank you for instilling into your children manners and plain human decency!
But another top comment came from a person, Ronni Kolsky-Prokoff, who disagreed and wrote:
I know you are their mother, but in my opinion, I thought that was a bit over the top!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would have made them go back in the ice cream place and apologize for not saying thank you. They are great kids, and this was quite harsh and this memory will really stay with them, even though I know you were trying to make a point.
What’s your take on this issue?