Death is inevitable, we all know that… and while we can’t control the circumstances of our death, we can choose how we live our lives to feel fulfilled before our time comes.
Such is among the nuggets of wisdom that a cancer-stricken woman wrote in a heartbreaking letter of advice that has since gone viral after her family shared it on Facebook when she died.
Holly Butcher was a 27-year-old woman from Grafton, in New South Wales, Australia. She had always valued her health and had actually lived a healthy lifestyle, not just choosing the right foods to eat but also being active.
She was actually a popular athlete who represented her state in hockey and squash. But fate had other plans for the young lady. She was diagnosed with Ewing’s sarcoma, a rare form of cancer of the bone and soft tissues.
After a year-long battle with cancer, Holly passed away last January 4, 2018. After announcing her passing, the family would share a heartbreaking letter that she wrote just before she died – and it has taken the internet by storm.
She explained a bit about the fears she felt as she lay on her hospital bed, knowing she was going to die at such a young age. But she would also offer words of advice and tidbits of wisdom that impressed a lot of people.
Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days…
You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
Let all that sh*t go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things… until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
Aside from telling people to stop complaining, however, Holly also advised people to enjoy experiences instead of putting too much effort to buy material things. She told people to do things that make them happy.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives…
Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material sh*t.
Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water. Get amongst nature.
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
It was also quite touching that she advised people to follow their heart and do things they like, not because they are looking for approval from others.
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true…