Should parents support their children even if they are already adults? Well, ‘support’ might have a different definition, depending on where you are located or how you were raised.
In the Philippines, for example, parents continue to let their children live at their home even if they are already married. Many parents even feel offended or hurt if their children plan to build a house of their own, away from the family home.
But in many places, especially in the US and other so-called ‘first world’ countries, children are expected to move out of their parents’ home by the time they turn 18. At 18, they are already considered as adults and are the ones responsible for their lives.
This means that they are expected to find a job to support themselves and even send themselves to school, even if that meant taking more jobs or a student loan. Meanwhile, in the Philippines, parents send their children to college and even pay for their tuition as they take their Master’s Degree.
Now, an extreme example of the first world type of parenting was seen in the case of Mark and Christina Rotondo who sued their 30-year-old son, Michael, because he won’t move out of their house.
Michael had lived on his own for some years after turning 18 but when he lost his job 8 years ago, he returned to his parents’ home. But this would later put a strain in his relationship with his parents.
Unable to find a job, Michael took to running a website business but despite having some earnings off it, his parents alleged that he doesn’t help pay the bills or buy groceries, even for his own consumption. Thus, his parents have to support him.
His parents also alleged that he does not even help in doing the chores at home; though he would eat his parents’ food and use the utilities.
For years, his parents tried to evict him as diplomatically as they could. They tried pleading for him to move out. When the verbal pleas fell on deaf ears, his parents decided to write him letters but he still ignored the written warnings.
There were times when they would hand him a notice that read, “Michael Joseph Rontodo, you are hereby evicted” but he ignored that, too. His parents even gave him a list of things to do so he could get his life in order, giving him $1,100 to bribe him to move out but though he did accept the cash, he continued living in their house.
Feeling totally frustrated about the situation, his parents sued him at the local court. They were told to bring the matter to the Supreme Court.
On Tuesday, state Supreme Court justice Donald Greenwood ruled in favor of the parents. At first, he tried to convince Michael to simply move out but the latter said he felt entitled to at least 6 more months of stay at his parents’ home, to give him enough time to look for a job and a new home.
The judge found this ‘outrageous’ and served him an eviction order. In turn, Michael called the ruling as ‘outrageous’ and vowed to contest the order.
He later told reporters that he plans on still going back to his parents’ home to ‘get some things’ but is now unsure what to do next or where he would stay.
Do you think it was unfair that he got evicted from his own parents’ home, by his own parents?