What would you do if you catch your husband on a gay hook-up app – and you had no idea he was gay before that? For one woman, it was a huge dilemma, so she posted it on a parenting forum to ask other mothers what they would have done if they were in her place.
Hello. Hands shaking. Today I found my DH [Darling Husband] on Grindr. Without a doubt it is him. Posing in our ensuite bathroom. Confronted him. Says it is not him but refuses to let me see his phone. He is refusing to talk to me. Two children. 7 and 10. I am 43. Dont know what to do. Please some advice.
People soon gave her various sorts of advice, including kicking him out of the house and filing a divorce. Yet there were also others who advised her to proceed with caution, especially because there were kids involved.
Clearly, the woman did not immediately want to let go of her husband despite knowing he is gay because she wouldn’t have posted the question if she already made up her mind.
In the end, she said she will not ruin his reputation as long as he “plays fair”; though she did not elaborate what she meant by “fair”.
So, if you were in her shoes, what would you have done?